Question by  Keith85 (23)

What can I do about a separation anxiety in a toddler?

My 20-month old has a meltdown if I even leave the room.


Answer by  maggiec1179aolcom (754)

personally, I say when the other parent is home or when grandma is around, leave the baby with the other adult. You know that the baby is fine... go take a shower or go out and get a coffee. Continue doing it for short periods of time, your baby will see that you come back and will have less meltdowns.


Answer by  VintageMom (17)

First, don't worry - it's completely normal. Try explaining in simple words that Mom's going to the store, then say bye-bye and leave. The more you delay leaving, the worse it gets. Don't make a big deal about leaving, just keep it very simple and relaxed. It gets better!


Answer by  yael (482)

It might be appropriate to let them have the tantrum. It will be difficult to watch but after a few times he might understand that you are not abandoning him.


Answer by  Scot (591)

The key to minimizing separation anxiety in a toddler is to have a care giver who is excited to receive the child in your absence. If the toddler is received in a positive manner, by someone who is quick to engage them in an activity, the child will develop a mild attachment to that new routine.


Answer by  freebird (225)

Don't sneak away. Tell him you are leaving, and then leave. Wait a minute, then come back. Tell him, "See, I told you I'd come right back." Next, leave him for a few minutes with a trusted relative, repeating that you're leaving and then now you're back. He'll slowly learn to trust that you will, indeed, come back when expected.


Answer by  blrVoice (1054)

Make sure your child does not feel left alone. So if you leave, make sure that there is another familiar person, which your child knows well, in the room. My friend used a trick, she recorded her voice on tape and used to play that, when she left the room.

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