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                                                                                          diva25 (4016)
                                                            
                          
                          
                                                          You are going to have to be willing to put yourself out on the line.  You are going to have to ask a lot of questions to find out what you have in common with someone else.  You have to really dig deep to find these sometimes and may be shot down a few times, but don't worry about that.