How do I tell my wife that I am a transsexual?

Answer by  benstac (1928)

I would recommend talking to someone at a transexual community center or in the event you aren't near a major city and thus don't have those, a psychologist. That way, the person can help guide the discussion as this could be something that would come as a major shock to your wife. Be prepared to deal with anger and confusion.

Answer by  Tracipoo (1329)

Wow, now that's a hard one. I guess I would start with the most direct approach. I would sit here down and tell her that I have something very important to discuss with her. about to say. Then, I would just be direct, and tell her straight out. Honesty is always the best policy. There's really no other way.

Answer by  Anonymous

The best you can--preferably hopefully, honestly, immediately, openly. If you fear her reaction, or are trying to control her reactions by focusing on "Well, I don't want to hurt her," you'll just cause more hurt. It may also be she already suspects. Question is, will you support her?

Answer by  unni (259)

It is important to get the ideal situation when she is relaxed preferably. Tell her that you have a serious problem and that wasn't on purpose that you feel this way and it is what you are,tell her that it is not something brought out by her and tell her that it is not ethical to stay in the relationship anymore.

Answer by  liblue (683)

Go to a counselor to deal with sexual identity issues. This will be a good neutral ,trained person to help guide your telling of your sexual orientation to your wife.

Answer by  Brittney (1095)

You need to sit her down and be honest with her. There really is no right or wrong way to do this. You really need to be prepared for her reactions. Prepare yourself for the good and the bad. She may tell you that she loves you either way. She may also feel decieved and become upset.

Answer by  Roland27 (16334)

It's best to just come out and tell your wife what you are. Some people cannot cope with a change like that and they want to leave. However, don't worry about that right now. What you need to worry about is your wife's feelings. You shouldn't hide this from her.