Try spending more time with each other. Go out to dinner, watch a movie, cook together or maybe go out shopping. Your past connection that needs to be re-charged again.
You can minimize mother-daughter arguments by letting the other know you are listening. Arguments escalate because one party feels they are not being listened to or their viewpoint doesn't matter.
Daughters fail to notice their parents are aging and there expectations are the same as when they were in their twenties!! when they are in their 60's they will understand!! Sadly it may be too late!!